Love thy parents

“Love thy parents for no matter how they treated you on this earth, in the kingdom of God their soul would plead only for your happiness”

I wrote this quote when I was preparing my coffee. Strange but true this time my mind is not hibernating. First, something that I saw triggered my thinking process and I wrote ~ “Waiting to be taken home”. Then the comments tickled my little brain again and I mentioned in my reply to comments from readers that I would write in detail about my views in the next post and also try to explain why I do not believe in applying the rule “You reap what you sow” when we are talking of abandoning parents. But I am not going to do any explaining here as such and sound like a prophet because I am not one. Every individual has his/her own opinion and has the right to agree on or disagree with anything. I just want to express my feelings about my parents …

I have never ever understood how can one abandon their parents. I agree with Anil when he says ~ the most disgusting is, that how can someone desert his parents. I mean, those ppl who have brought light to your life, been there with you, loved you, took you to school, got you married, and helped you till you stand on your own. How can you abandon them, you need a heart of a devil to do this. I have fights with my parents, but there is never a grudge against them.
I know that “You reap what you sow” makes sense but I cannot apply it when it comes to abandoning ones parents because you are still with your parents means that they have not abandoned you because if were abandoned by your parents you would be not in the position to abandon them at a later stage. So in this case both cannot be culprits. It has to be one of you…
Even I have fights with my parents, sometimes I even feel that I am not loved the way I want them to love me. But that does not mean that they do not love me. I still remember a funny incident that took place 12 years ago. It was funny to see dad behave like this but then, his actions conveyed a deeper meaning.

We were in Essel world and were walking from one ride to the other. I was walking few steps ahead of the rest of the family members and a guy walked too close to me and purposely touched me. I stopped and turned around and I saw my dad walking completely out of his line to push that guy on purpose. It was a funny scene but the guy got the message and a silent commitment from dads’ side was registered in my heart, engraved in bold letters that my dad would be there when I need him even if I do not give him the call.
Today, even after so many years when I think of that episode all my frustration I have due to current circumstances vaporize in thin air.

Twenty five years ago, the three year old me had cried, screamed, shaking hell, earth and heaven when my mother had climbed into the train and had let go my hand when the train started moving, leaving me on the platform but today I am alive because she thought of doing so.
Today whenever I feel that my mother does not care for me the way I want her to, I think of this incidence and then I say to myself, I am complaining because I am alive and I am alive because she reacted spontaneously and then all my frustration changes into a feeling of gratitude.
I leave you all with the quote mentioned at the beginning of the post and a poem, to contemplate…
What Is A Family (2)

What is a family?
Is it only you or me?
Is it your duty
Or my responsibility?

Family is beyond what we can see
Family is you AND me
When we all stop thinking of the “me”
Then we would stand together as family

The lips that say I care
The heart that says I am here to share
The eyes that show love that lasts forever
The hands that would leave you never
This is what is being part of the family
Forgetting the differences, if any

A pillow to soak the silent tears
Strength to enable to face the worst fears
Shoulders to lean on when tired
A hope that encourages to get what heart desired
This is not your duty or my responsibility
Family means to share everything evenly.

Arti D. Honrao